BOOK TWO: chapter seven: finding love in yourself and otherself and others (part 2)


PART TWO: Building Your House Of Love Let’s develop an analogy of a house, to illustrate several of the points we’ll be making. It’s got the window you just used to get rid of all your un-helpful beliefs. It also has several floors, many, many rooms, a front door, a back door, and NO hearth. Your house … Continue reading BOOK TWO: chapter seven: finding love in yourself and otherself and others (part 2)

BOOK TWO: chapter seven: finding love in yourself and others (part 3)


PART THREE: What’s In A Relationship? Let's leave the house for a while, and talk about feelings. Feelings can be as varied as the rooms in your house, and they're likely to change more often than you’d like to decorate… especially if they involve another person. We talk about feelings, in general, in other parts … Continue reading BOOK TWO: chapter seven: finding love in yourself and others (part 3)

BOOK TWO: chapter seven: finding love in yourself and others (part 4)


PART FOUR: Feel The Love Now let’s talk about love. Flowery illustrative words give you a warm and fuzzy feeling... The fierce, abiding, confident love we’re talking about bears no relationship to warm and fuzzy feelings. Warm and fuzzy often blurs the mind and its vision, and we desire clarity. Please understand: love’s soft and … Continue reading BOOK TWO: chapter seven: finding love in yourself and others (part 4)

do i love you or crush you?


Love and Infatuation Love is acceptance. Infatuation is fascination. Love and infatuation resemble fear: They can both paralyze and provoke rash action. This view may surprise many Westerners, we treasure a deep conviction that love is a virtuous emotion. But love is neutral unless we act on it. It’s easy to love someone and do … Continue reading do i love you or crush you?

BOOK TWO: chapter seven: finding love in yourself and others (part 5)


PART FIVE: Who Makes A Meaningful Partner? You’ve all been told by others what you should look for in a romantic partner. We’d like to ask you: How can ordinary beings possibly know what is best for another person? Certainly, others may feel they know you very well, but why should one person think they … Continue reading BOOK TWO: chapter seven: finding love in yourself and others (part 5)

buddhas become all the time


Our New Best Friend Is A Buddha I’ve introduced you to my BF Heruka… I have another BF named Lhamo Dorje, and I feel I really need to give her some air time. This challenges me, because I come from a pretty traditional background, even for a Buddhist, and Lhamo Dorje hardly comes from tradition. … Continue reading buddhas become all the time

wanna dodge the bullet of buddhism?


Welcome to my irreverent post of the week. I didn’t dodge the bullet. The Buddhas winged me. Does the epithet “Buddha” make you want to read this post, or push you to click away? That word carries many connotations to many people; it simply designates an “Awakened One”, an Enlightened Being. It’s also convenient. I’m … Continue reading wanna dodge the bullet of buddhism?

BOOK TWO: chapter seven: finding love in yourself and others (part 6)


PART SIX: Building A Working Relationship Feelings play a big role in any partnership - love or otherwise. Anytime you need to negotiate with someone else to get what you want, feelings drive most of your failures and successes. So this advice can be helpful even when you’re looking for a job or trying to … Continue reading BOOK TWO: chapter seven: finding love in yourself and others (part 6)

enlightenment with a video game


ONE OF MY FAVORITE TOPICS! gaming as a spiritual practice I found this blog, linked to a podcast... Nice encouragement for this series of posts I'm creating about making progress on the spiritual path. Inspires me to get back to that topic... Here's Jane McGonigal's text: Episode Description: Leading game designer Jane McGonigal joins guest … Continue reading enlightenment with a video game

BOOK TWO: chapter nine: the nature and meaning of dreams and visions (part 01)


PART ONE: Welcome To Your Dream World [from Buddhas Heruka, Manjushri, and Naropa]Most people use their dreams to work through their issues and questions. Some people with highly-developed minds use their dreaming time to go to places and do things that they can't do with their human bodies. Only a small percentage of people can … Continue reading BOOK TWO: chapter nine: the nature and meaning of dreams and visions (part 01)