BOOK TWO: chapter two: why are there two of us?


(parts of this chapter were posted previously, here, here, and here) All About Emptiness… (from Heruka Chakrasamvara) A Buddhist Example We can find many examples we can use to contemplate Emptiness... a book, our laundry… This example comes from traditional Tibetan Buddhist iconography. Some Vajrayana Buddhist lineages include the prayer practice of the deity Heruka … Continue reading BOOK TWO: chapter two: why are there two of us?

BOOK TWO: chapter three: reducing grasping


[From Buddhas Heruka and Vajravarahi] What is grasping? Grasping is not letting go. It’s that simple. It’s holding on tightly to how you think things are, and/or how you want them to be. It can show itself in things as wide-ranging as racial profiling, conspiracy theories, and seasonal depression. It can cause marriages, and it can … Continue reading BOOK TWO: chapter three: reducing grasping

BOOK TWO: chapter six: meet the new buddha!


[from Buddha Heruka and Buddha Manjushri] Lhamo Dorje (Lhamo Kalinga Tindley Dorje), emanates especially for these times. In this busy world, most people don't find much free time. Distractions abound, as do excuses. Sometimes we wish we had a little special help. Regardless of our religious (or non-religious) preferences, we all receive help - often … Continue reading BOOK TWO: chapter six: meet the new buddha!

BOOK TWO: chapter seven: finding love in yourself and otherself and others (part 1)


PART ONE: What Is Love?  [From Buddhas Heruka, Green Tara and White Tara] Every living being – even non-humans – has the capacity for love in his or her heart. Society has created many myths about love and relationships, and most people believe at least one of these myths. In this chapter we're going to … Continue reading BOOK TWO: chapter seven: finding love in yourself and otherself and others (part 1)

BOOK TWO: chapter seven: finding love in yourself and otherself and others (part 2)


PART TWO: Building Your House Of Love Let’s develop an analogy of a house, to illustrate several of the points we’ll be making. It’s got the window you just used to get rid of all your un-helpful beliefs. It also has several floors, many, many rooms, a front door, a back door, and NO hearth. Your house … Continue reading BOOK TWO: chapter seven: finding love in yourself and otherself and others (part 2)

BOOK TWO: chapter seven: finding love in yourself and others (part 3)


PART THREE: What’s In A Relationship? Let's leave the house for a while, and talk about feelings. Feelings can be as varied as the rooms in your house, and they're likely to change more often than you’d like to decorate… especially if they involve another person. We talk about feelings, in general, in other parts … Continue reading BOOK TWO: chapter seven: finding love in yourself and others (part 3)

BOOK TWO: chapter seven: finding love in yourself and others (part 4)


PART FOUR: Feel The Love Now let’s talk about love. Flowery illustrative words give you a warm and fuzzy feeling... The fierce, abiding, confident love we’re talking about bears no relationship to warm and fuzzy feelings. Warm and fuzzy often blurs the mind and its vision, and we desire clarity. Please understand: love’s soft and … Continue reading BOOK TWO: chapter seven: finding love in yourself and others (part 4)

BOOK TWO: chapter seven: finding love in yourself and others (part 5)


PART FIVE: Who Makes A Meaningful Partner? You’ve all been told by others what you should look for in a romantic partner. We’d like to ask you: How can ordinary beings possibly know what is best for another person? Certainly, others may feel they know you very well, but why should one person think they … Continue reading BOOK TWO: chapter seven: finding love in yourself and others (part 5)

BOOK TWO: chapter seven: finding love in yourself and others (part 6)


PART SIX: Building A Working Relationship Feelings play a big role in any partnership - love or otherwise. Anytime you need to negotiate with someone else to get what you want, feelings drive most of your failures and successes. So this advice can be helpful even when you’re looking for a job or trying to … Continue reading BOOK TWO: chapter seven: finding love in yourself and others (part 6)